Preschool Troubles

Posted by: Maggie

First of all, look at this girl:

Would you kick this sweet, adorable child out of school?

Okay, I’m exaggerating a bit. She didn’t get kicked out of school, but she did get kicked out of nap time at school.

It all started over the summer, when she stopped napping. Everyday I would pick her up from school at 3pm and most days I’d get the same report (from a frustrated teacher) that she had once again not napped. AND not only did she not nap, but she would not sit and play quietly. She was getting up and running around and thought it was funny that the teachers wanted her to stop. Yup, my kid is a trouble maker.

She had stopped napping at home on the weekends as well. We always attempt a nap and give her a period of time that she needs to stay in her room before she could come out. And occasionally during that time she would fall asleep, but more and more often she just played for a while and we let her get up.

When the fall semester started, they decided that they weren’t going to put up with her anymore.  I explained to them that I didn’t understand why they were having such a problem with her,  she behaves for us at home. But, then again, we don’t ever expect her to sit quietly for 2 hours! Honestly, I don’t know how that would even be possible or why they think it should be. Does anyone know any three or four year old who can sit quietly for 20 minutes much less two hours?

I recognize their frustration. Every other Pre-K kid is napping. And while they are, she wants to run around and make noise. So, what are they supposed to do? Have one teacher watch her while she plays in another room? I have no idea. So, they’ve asked me to switch her to a half day schedule. I had already switched from full day to 3pm at the start of the year. Now they’d like for me to pick her up at noon. Which, cuts my 6 hour workday to just 3 hours. Work is not crazy busy right now, so I’m managing, but I’m not thrilled about the arrangement.

Has anyone else out there had this problem? What did you or your kid’s school do with your preschooler who refused to nap?



    My oldest has Autism and hasn’t napped regularly since he was 2. He’s currently in a half day so there is no nap, but I suspect he’d be expected to regulate his voice/noise level if a teacher couldn’t take him to another room. I think the pertinent question is what the teaching staff does when they have high energy kids who don’t nap. It sounds like they might need to adjust their expectations considering how young she is. And it’s possible she’s not ready for a full day. Its a lot on a kid, and part of preschool is to teach little ones what to expect from kindergarten. And part of that means not being disruptive during quiet times. That’s a skill a lot of kids don’t master when they are 6 much less 3. So a bit of patience and compromise might be in order. She can practice longer stretches of quiet play at home to prepare for the full day. At four my oldest can play quietly for a solid 45 mins but we had to work up to it. Not for school but because he shares a room with his baby brother. So if she can do 15, try adding more time and loads of praise and then try again in a few months to see if she can hang. And have a chat with the school because preschools are a dime a dozen so if they cant handle a busy kid it might be time to shop around.

  2. Christina 

    Wow. I’m shocked they asked you to reduce her schedule. She can’t be the ONLY kid in their history who doesn’t nap. They surely have got to have a plan for those who don’t nap and want to be active. You are lucky that you can accomodate their request since you mostly work at home, but what if you didn’t? I would be looking for another preschool since that additional time she’s at school is precious time for you!

  3. G Regan 

    when’s our coffee date? Next week is screwy with the holiday. I can do Mon 9/12 or Wed 9/14.

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