Fabulous Friday: the Summer to Fall Dress

Posted by: Maggie

I was super excited to find this dress at Target the other day! It’s the perfect summer to fall dress. The colors work well for both seasons. Right now I’m wearing it with just a pair of sandals, but come fall all I have to do is add a cardigan, a pair of tights and boots and I’ll be in perfect autumnal style!

Xhilaration Juniors Challis Kimono Dress – Orange Print; Target, $20

Do you have a favorite summer to fall dress yet?

Cranky Parenting: Talking about Private Parts

Posted by: Maggie

Last night I was talking with a new friend about Eleanor and she remarked that preschoolers don’t have filters. They just say whatever comes to mind. That is absolutely the case with Eleanor. It’s something we’ve been having some issues learning to deal with lately, especially when talking about “private parts.”  We’re struggling with teaching her that some things are “private,” while still being honest and open and avoiding creating any kind of shame about her body. And I have to tell you this is tough!

We are super open about nudity in this house. We don’t cover up around Eleanor and we answer any question she has about her body or ours in as honest a way as possible. We don’t use cutesy names for body parts. A doctor on Oprah years ago recommended that sex education begin as early as possible, and that starts with using the proper names for body parts. Using silly names for your kids’ body parts can foster shame in them. So in our house, a Penis is a Penis. A Vulva is a Vulva. Yup, you read that right. We use the absolute proper names. If you didn’t know, the entire external female genitalia is the vulva. The vagina is just the inside part. For some reason everyone started using vagina for the whole works and I guess that’s what has stuck.

Here’s where the problem comes. I am thrilled she uses the proper names and shows absolutely zero shame about her body and her private parts. EXCEPT that she wants to talk about everybody else’s body parts. Like at the store, with people that are walking by. If she were a forty-year-old man instead a three-year-old girl, she’d have been arrested by now. AND she thinks it’s cool to run around naked when we have guests. Actually she seems to be aware that there is something interesting about streaking because she laughs uproariously when she does it! None of this bothers me, but it sure does make other people uncomfortable. So we’ve been trying to explain to her that it’s fine to be naked with Mommy and Daddy, but that it’s polite to wear clothes in front of guests. And that other people don’t want to talk about their penis or vulva. She’s not really getting it, or if she does she either forgets or doesn’t care. This leads to a lot of awkward, uncomfortable moments. Like that time she ran around patting everyone’s crotch while singing a song about it.

How do you handle talking to your kids about their private parts? Any tips on getting them to understand what private means?

A Little Cranky Update!

Posted by: Maggie

Hi Friends!

I meant to write you some fun posts yesterday and today, but I’m not perfect alright! I’m busy entertaining house guests, being a lawyer with a court hearing this week, while also being a photographer booking new clients and planning shoots for next week! So get off my back internet! I hear you complaining, and I’m telling you to knock it off!

So, anyways, instead of actually writing what I was planning for yesterday and today I thought I’d just give you a little update on what we’re up to this summer!

  • I’ve just completed an AMAZING Online Boudoir Photography Workshop from my favorite photographer in the whole world Christa Meola!
  • Eleanor has been enjoying her preschool summer program, which features weekly visitors including the Bubble Man, a Reptile Handler, and the Library Fairy, and a water play day once a week! I wish I was in a preschool summer program!
  • My best friend Andrew turned 30, so I took him out for Mexican food, and his wife Amy bought him an awesome new tattoo, can’t wait to see it in person and for Amy to blog about it!
  • Josh’s best friend Brian came to stays with us for sort of a week. He arrived last Tuesday and left this Tuesday night, but left us for the weekend to be in a friend’s wedding in San Francisco. So, we didn’t have nearly enough Brian time. Although his stories about Texas and teaching college kids are pretty amazing so we forgive him.
  • While Brian was here we took him to see the new Dinosaur exhibit at the Natural History Museum, had drinks with Andrew, went to visit UCLA, had dinner in Westwood with an old friend from high school plus Diddy Riese Cookies, and had a day at the beach, followed by dinner party with my friend and frequent cranky commenter Megan! It was a pretty full, although far too short, visit. There will be posts to come about various portions of the visit.
  • Josh and I will be celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary this weekend with a night at the Farmer’s Daughter in West Hollywood. Can’t wait! A night without a child! We are going to watch so much tv!
  • Eleanor will be at home with Uncle Elliott. She’s pretty excited about that.
  • I’ve got a Boudoir Party shoot with three lovely ladies next week! I am beyond excited!
  • AND I’ve got a wedding and a baby shower coming up this month.

So, you know, pretty busy over here. How bout you guys? Having a fun summer?