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Bedtime Troubles Strike Again

Posted by: Maggie

We’re, once again, having some sleeping issues in the Keegan Gross house. Thankfully, once she’s in bed she sleeps through the night. But at bedtime, Eleanor just doesn’t want to go to sleep. We put her in bed between 8 and 8:30pm and then proceed to walk her back to bed until she stays there, which can be from 30 minutes to 2 hours. This happens most nights. Ever 15 minutes or so it’s something new, I need some milk, I have an itch, I’m hungry, I want Mama to sing me a song. And we do as the books say, we just walk her back to bed without discussion, over and over and over again.

Before we moved apartments we had turned her door handle around so that we could lock it from the outside to avoid the hours of walking her back to bed. We didn’t do it ever night, just after at lease 45 minutes of walking her back to bed and after warning her of the consequence of getting up again. This of course made her angry, and led to controversy among my family, who think it’s abusive to lock her in her room.

Some of you may feel the same way, but I’ve read many an article from parenting experts and doctors all which suggest locking the door or putting up a gate. I don’t see the difference between the two except with a gate she will have light coming into her room and can hear the tv on or Josh and I talking which doesn’t seem conducive to sleep. I honestly don’t see the problem with making her stay in her room until she falls asleep. I understand that people have concerns about the door being locked during the night because she couldn’t get to us if she had a nightmare or was feeling sick. But we check on her and unlock the door before we go to bed. I really don’t see the big deal, it’s her bedroom filled with books and toys, not a tiny cage lined with newspaper.

From reading the parenting forums and asking around, the bedtime problem seems extremely common at her age and no one seems to have a good solution.

What do you think? Is it wrong to lock her door at night? Got any secrets to get a very determined three year old to stay in bed? Do you think it’s just a three year old thing and she’ll grow out of it? I think that’s the way I’m leaning.

A Mother’s Day Ode to Not Doing it All

Posted by: Maggie

I had planned on posting this yesterday, but I didn’t want to take anything away from the very sweet Mother’s Day post Josh wrote for me. So here is a slightly belated Mother’s Day Ode.

I’m an optimist and not much of a complainer. I also am not a fan being too self-deprecating. In general, I think that sounds a little sad. So I don’t criticize myself much on this blog, or write about my faults much. Josh says that I might paint a slightly too rosy picture of our life. I would never want to make motherhood and small business ownership seem easy. It’s not.

I hear from readers who applaud me for being able to do it all. But on this Mother’s Day I want to let you in on my little secret. I might be “doing it all.” But I certainly am not doing it all well. Some things I’m doing perfectly poorly!

Here’s a short list (that could be done much longer) of the many things that I’m not so hot at!

  • I forget things. Lots of things. I forget appointments and to return phone calls and emails, I forget to write tasks on my to do list. I forget to look at my to do list. I forget to have Eleanor do her homework, and when she does I forget to turn it in.
  • I rarely remember that Eleanor was supposed to bring something in to school for a project or special event.
  • Sometimes I go a couple days without showering because I just don’t want to waste that time when I could be working.
  • I drink too much coffee.
  • I let Eleanor eat on the couch.
  • I eat on the couch.
  • I let Eleanor watch more tv than she probably should.
  • I am tired most of the time.
  • I have a hard time going without working or being on a computer for any amount of time.
  • My bathroom hasn’t been cleaned in a few weeks.
  • I always intend to write hand-written thank you notes, but rarely get around to doing it.
  • The Post Office is a little out of the way, so things that need to be mailed often sit in my car for a week.
  • I rarely get Eleanor to school on time, and by rarely I mean never.
  • I refuse to take Eleanor to the park anymore because I can’t stand making small talk with the other parents.
  • I convince myself of reasons why I just don’t have time to go the gym today.
  • I could add twenty more things to this list, but I have a short attention span, so I have to move on to something else now.

Now you know my secret to doing it all! Don’t do it all, or do most things half-way! And, you know what? I think I’m okay with that.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Easter Part Two: The Basket & the Hunt

Posted by: Maggie

We awoke on Easter to Eleanor yelling that we had to get up NOW to go see if the Easter Bunny was here. Somehow in telling her the story she got the idea that the Easter Bunny wouldn’t just leave her basket and go, but would instead hang out, wait for Eleanor to wake up and then maybe stay for breakfast.

Eleanor was disappointed that there was no Bunny waiting, but was excited by the basket She had left behind. I think I overdid Eleanor’s Easter basket a bit.

My rule for Easter Baskets is the same as it is for Christmas stockings: keep it small and simple, a few small toys and some candy. I don’t want to make holidays about the gifts. I have a big problem with teaching your kids that stuff is important, and teaching them to expect to get more and more stuff for every holiday. I’ve heard of people filling giant Easter Baskets with DVDs and Video Games and expensive toys. I just think that’s too much!

But I’ll give those of you who do that a break, since this year I broke my rule a bit myself. Although I only spent about $10 in all (thanks to Target’s dollar section), I think I just got her a few too many things.

Her basket included: a bubble wand, an Alice in Wonderland Coloring Book, a mini board book about bugs, Dora the Explorer chapstick (she is obsessed with my chapstick so I thought she could use some of her own), Dora socks, a Where the Wild Things Are book bag, and some bunny ears, and of course some candy–purple peeps, a cadbury egg, and some plastic eggs filled with pastel Skittles. Too much stuff right?

After a relaxing morning at home eating bagels and candy, we went over to my mom’s where she had hid some eggs for Eleanor to find.

Her basket was a bit small for all those eggs. Don’t worry, she won’t be the only grandchild for too long, soon she’ll have some competition over finding those eggs.

The remainder of the day was spent on an insane sugar high. We definitely let her eat way too much candy and cookies. She was outta control. The highlight of the day was when her uncles entertained her. She is crazy about my three brothers. She talks about them all the time. She gets excited when William plays the guitar for her. So William played her some songs and he and Emmett and Elliott sang for her. I think her favorite was Del Shannon’s Runaway. She has good taste.

After a delicious spring veggie dinner and two kinds of dessert, a tres leches cake and a blackberry tart, we headed home where we had a fun time trying to put our strong willed child to bed with her never ending sugar high coupled with her usual dog allergy sneezing and runny nose from visiting any of her grandparents. And yet, I still love holidays! I’m clearly a masochist.

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