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Preschool Troubles

Posted by: Maggie

First of all, look at this girl:

Would you kick this sweet, adorable child out of school?

Okay, I’m exaggerating a bit. She didn’t get kicked out of school, but she did get kicked out of nap time at school.

It all started over the summer, when she stopped napping. Everyday I would pick her up from school at 3pm and most days I’d get the same report (from a frustrated teacher) that she had once again not napped. AND not only did she not nap, but she would not sit and play quietly. She was getting up and running around and thought it was funny that the teachers wanted her to stop. Yup, my kid is a trouble maker.

She had stopped napping at home on the weekends as well. We always attempt a nap and give her a period of time that she needs to stay in her room before she could come out. And occasionally during that time she would fall asleep, but more and more often she just played for a while and we let her get up.

When the fall semester started, they decided that they weren’t going to put up with her anymore.  I explained to them that I didn’t understand why they were having such a problem with her,  she behaves for us at home. But, then again, we don’t ever expect her to sit quietly for 2 hours! Honestly, I don’t know how that would even be possible or why they think it should be. Does anyone know any three or four year old who can sit quietly for 20 minutes much less two hours?

I recognize their frustration. Every other Pre-K kid is napping. And while they are, she wants to run around and make noise. So, what are they supposed to do? Have one teacher watch her while she plays in another room? I have no idea. So, they’ve asked me to switch her to a half day schedule. I had already switched from full day to 3pm at the start of the year. Now they’d like for me to pick her up at noon. Which, cuts my 6 hour workday to just 3 hours. Work is not crazy busy right now, so I’m managing, but I’m not thrilled about the arrangement.

Has anyone else out there had this problem? What did you or your kid’s school do with your preschooler who refused to nap?

Eleanor Needs a Sibling

Posted by: Maggie

I think Eleanor has gone too long as an only child. She seems to think that she is an equal to Mom & Dad. And possibly even the boss of this house. I think a sibling is what she needs to understand that everything isn’t up to her alone. It’s not a bad thing necessarily.  I’m glad that she is not shy around other adults and always stands up for herself against other kids. She’s a very social and fearless little girl anyway, but I think it also has to do with how we treat her.

We do our best to treat her as respectfully as we want her to treat us or anyone else. We ask her “please” and tell her “thank you.” We rarely command her to do anything, unless it’s punishment. We always try to ask her nicely to do things we want her to do (while letting her know that what we’re asking isn’t optional). We also let her have a say in what activities we are going to do and some other family decisions. But we might be a little too deferential to her wishes. Josh and I are, after all, the more flexible ones and we prefer to avoid a conflict and ensuing meltdown. And we do want her to understand that her wishes and feelings matter. Just because she’s a child doesn’t mean that she can’t have any control over her life.

BUT then again, she does need to learn to be flexible with others and respectful of what they want. We should probably be doing a little more to give her chances to learn that lesson. I think a sibling is just what she needs to teach her that. Well, we’re working on it.

In the meantime, we can enjoy the hilarity that is Eleanor, the little Mama dishing out praise and punishment. “Good job Daddy! You cooked a great dinner! Good work!” “Mama if you yell, you are going to have to go on a time out and then you can’t have any treats!” It’s about the funniest thing you’ve ever heard. The best one so far, “Mama if you don’t get me a snack right now, you and Daddy can’t live here anymore! You will have to move out!”