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Living Vicariously Through My Child

Posted by: Maggie

All parents have dreams for their children and many of those dreams include some way of living vicariously through their children. I know you will all deny it, but you can just admit it. You know it’s true. I won’t judge you. There are those parents who push their kids in sports because they dreamed of becoming a star athlete themselves. There are the stage moms who always wanted to be stars. There are the parents who demand that their kids do well in school because they always wished they had done better, become lawyers, or doctors, or architects.

Not unlike these parents, I have a dream for my daughter. But it’s not a big dream. It’s not about fame or success, but it is about living vicariously through her. I want her to do something that I always wanted to do, but never could.

Eleanor will be a drummer!

picture from June ‘09

I always wanted to be a drummer, but because of my disability I can’t really flex my ankle to use the pedal on a bass drum. Also, I have no rhythm, so even if I could I’d be a pretty crappy drummer.

I don’t know why I love the drums so much. There is just something super tough–very physical, kinda aggressive–about playing the drums. Especially so for a female drummer. I loooove to see a female drummer.

So, my dream for Eleanor is to be a kick ass female drummer. I’m already planning to get her a drum kit for her next birthday (we thought about getting it for her 2nd birthday, but decided it was a little early).  And two of her uncles play drums, so she already has teachers ready for her. I can’t wait!

As for what she does with the rest of her life, I don’t really care as long as she’s happy. But you better believe this kid is going to be top of her class in high school, that’s non-negotiable. After that it’ll be up to her!

The Croup!

Posted by: Maggie

Sorry for the serious delay in posting.  I’m just not feeling the blogging thing this week, but I’m going to power through it. So, here is the post I promised!

The weekend before last Eleanor started feeling a little sick. On Sunday she woke up with a terrible barky cough. You know, like a seal. She did not sound good. She was also wheezing a little. So we took her to urgent care that afternoon. I suspected Croup, mostly because I remember it from Anne of Green Gables (remember when Diana’s little sister is sick with the croup and Anne has to go help her and Diana’s parents are so thankful they let Diana be friends with Anne again, Amy, you know what I’m talking about) and I recognized the cough from the movie version of the book. It turns out I was absolutely right. But the doctor didn’t really believe me when I said that she was also wheezing in addition to her coughing because I guess it doesn’t usually happen with Croup, but when she listened to Eleanor’s lungs she could hear it too. I know my wheezing from living with asthma stricken brothers (and not to mention Josh). So, Eleanor may or may not have asthma, this wheezing may have been only croup related, we’ll see.

To treat the croup they gave her an oral liquid one-dose medicine and sent her home with an inhaler for the wheezing. The next morning the coughing seemed a little better but she was pretty lethargic. We ran over to target in the morning to buy her a humidifier so I could run it in her room before her nap. When we got home from target I put the poor girl on the couch and put in a Blue’s Clues DVD. I, meanwhile, cleaned up the kitchen and started cooking us some lunch. I didn’t really hear a peep from her, but assumed that she was just watching the show.

I put lunch on the table and came to get her from the couch only to find that she had fallen asleep. She hadn’t eaten much breakfast and hadn’t wanted a morning snack. And I didn’t want her to wake up early from her nap because she was hungry. So, I decided to wake her up to get her to eat before she took a nap. Big mistake! The poor girl cried and cried and asked to go back to the couch. So I brought her back to the couch, and she fell immediately back to sleep. I put a blanket on her, closed the blinds, turned off the tv, put all the lights out and sat in the dark eating my lunch. After lunch, I continued to sit in the dark with my laptop getting some work done while she slept for the next 3 hours.

When she woke up she felt hot to the touch. As I mentioned on Fabulous Friday, I discovered that our thermometer didn’t work. So after we picked up Josh from his bus stop we stopped at Target to buy a new one (I realize that we haven’t posted about Josh’s car theft, I’ll try to get Josh to write that soon).  We took her temperature when we got home it was 103! Yikes! According to our What to Expect book a fever isn’t really dangerous unless its over 104. So, we tried to keep her cool and hydrated.

The next day was similar to the one before. She spent most of the day on the couch falling asleep and waking up. I mostly sat in the dark working. She would wake up every once in a while and ask for water or milk or grapes. Or she would ask for a hug or to hold her, or she would whine “Mommy, Mommy” until I would come and stroke her hair until she fell back to sleep. Her temperature had gone down some and by the end of the day it was only 101. She was like this for most of the day, but started to get very cranky in the evening and we had a terrible time getting her to bed. The photos from last week’s Wordless Wednesday came from that evening.

Eventually, she went to sleep and the next morning she was almost back to normal. Her temperature was 99 and she was up and walking around the house and wanted to go to the playground. I suspect she was doing so well because Daddy was home from work for Veterans Day.

Since then she has been doing gradually better and is pretty much back to normal, but still has a little bit of a cough, which could in all likelihood just be another cold.

And that was our week of illness. The little one needed a lot of attention which was kind of rough, but also kind of nice. She’s in her toddler “I’ll do it! I’ll do it!” stage (or maybe that’s just her natural independence) so it was nice to have her want me to do things for her and just to hold her and comfort her. It’s one of those times when you really feel like a mom.

Dia de los Muertos Festival

Posted by: Maggie

Every year my mom has a family dinner for Dia de los Muertos, but this year she skipped it because she had surgery on her foot last week.  So we decided to go have our own celebration at the Dia de los Muertos Festival in Canoga Park on Sunday morning.

Eleanor spent a lot of time behind the vendor booths up on the sidewalks. I assume she was trying to find some shade, it was super hot out.

They had some awesome street painting which my cousin Theresa (below) and her friend Susanne participated in.

You can see their finished product on Theresa’s blog here. It’s gorgeous!

They also had Aztec Dancers. Eleanor loved the drums and the peacock feathers.

Then we met some cops.

They let Eleanor drive their cop segway thingamajig. She was only interested in the soda in the cup holder though.

Did I mention it was hot?

Okay so remember how I talked about our food rules on Tuesday? Well, one of those rules is also no soda. Because, c’mon people it’s just colored sugar water! Kids don’t need sugar water! But we were waiting for our tamales to be ready AND it was hot AND I was still tired from Halloween AND I was still in a celebratory mood AND I just didn’t feel like putting up a fight against the whining. So I gave in and let Eleanor have some sips of my Strawberry Jarritos. It was her first soda ever! And hopefully last for a long long while.

We also shared a tortilla, Lady and the Tramp style.

Happy Dia de los Muertos!

Here’s what we did last year!

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