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Preschool Troubles

Posted by: Maggie

First of all, look at this girl:

Would you kick this sweet, adorable child out of school?

Okay, I’m exaggerating a bit. She didn’t get kicked out of school, but she did get kicked out of nap time at school.

It all started over the summer, when she stopped napping. Everyday I would pick her up from school at 3pm and most days I’d get the same report (from a frustrated teacher) that she had once again not napped. AND not only did she not nap, but she would not sit and play quietly. She was getting up and running around and thought it was funny that the teachers wanted her to stop. Yup, my kid is a trouble maker.

She had stopped napping at home on the weekends as well. We always attempt a nap and give her a period of time that she needs to stay in her room before she could come out. And occasionally during that time she would fall asleep, but more and more often she just played for a while and we let her get up.

When the fall semester started, they decided that they weren’t going to put up with her anymore.  I explained to them that I didn’t understand why they were having such a problem with her,  she behaves for us at home. But, then again, we don’t ever expect her to sit quietly for 2 hours! Honestly, I don’t know how that would even be possible or why they think it should be. Does anyone know any three or four year old who can sit quietly for 20 minutes much less two hours?

I recognize their frustration. Every other Pre-K kid is napping. And while they are, she wants to run around and make noise. So, what are they supposed to do? Have one teacher watch her while she plays in another room? I have no idea. So, they’ve asked me to switch her to a half day schedule. I had already switched from full day to 3pm at the start of the year. Now they’d like for me to pick her up at noon. Which, cuts my 6 hour workday to just 3 hours. Work is not crazy busy right now, so I’m managing, but I’m not thrilled about the arrangement.

Has anyone else out there had this problem? What did you or your kid’s school do with your preschooler who refused to nap?

Cranky Parenting: The Birthday Party Policy

Posted by: Maggie

I started fifth grade in a new school the summer after my parents divorced. I’ve never been great at making new friends, not even as a kid. So, it took a while for me to make a few friends. I spent most of my recesses and lunch hours sitting alone reading a book. It wasn’t really a bad thing. I wasn’t miserable. That’s how I preferred to spend time, escaping into stories, and still prefer to spend much of my time. But that meant that by the time my birthday came around in February, I still hadn’t made many friends.

My dad threw a birthday party for me, and following proper classroom etiquette, the entire class of 30 or so was invited.  Two people came.  Just two.  I remember having fun with those two, one of whom was and remained a good friend through high school. But I also remember that only two people came to my party. And that is the only birthday party of my childhood that I remember at all.

As soon as Eleanor started preschool the birthday party invitations started coming home with her.  We have missed only one, because we were out of town. I don’t particularly like going to them. I’m not crazy about having to go shopping to find a gift once a month. I’m not a big fan of making small talk with the other parents while the kids play. I’m not crazy about the Chuck E Cheese, Bounce Room, and Park locations. There really is a lot that I don’t like about kids’ parties.  BUT I’ve made a policy that Eleanor will go to every party that she is invited to until she is in high school.  Now that I’m a parent I’ve made the decision, that as much of a hassle as it might be, and as much as she may not want to go to a particular classmate’s party, I will not do to any child what those 28 plus sets of parents did to me. Made me feel like the least popular girl in the class. It may have been true, but I shouldn’t have been made to feel it.

What’s your birthday party policy? Do you go to all of them? Skip them all? Do you let your kid choose which one they want to go to?