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Like Sleeping With a Feral Cat

Posted by: Maggie

Right now we’re preparing the house and Eleanor for a visit from Josh’s best friend Brian. Brian is our smartest and funniest friend. He’s a college History professor in Texas, and for the next week he’ll be staying with us. Because we live in a smallish apartment and do not have a guest room, he’ll be staying in Eleanor’s room which I’m going to make all cozy like with a big air mattress. Eleanor will be sleeping with us, which should be fine, right?

We have a giant King size bed and we’re all pretty small people. I could lose twenty or so pounds, but I’m still not that wide and Josh and Eleanor are as thin as can be, so there should be plenty of room. Well, not when you’re sleeping with Eleanor. We’ve been prepping her the last couple of nights to see if she’ll go to bed in our room all by herself so that we don’t have to go to bed at 8pm while Brian is visiting. She’s been doing okay going to bed, not great, but okay. Except for the actual sleeping part.

She’s this tiny person in the middle of a huge bed with plenty of room for the three of us, and yet she manages to knee, elbow, kick, headbutt, throw her arms or legs on top of both of us throughout the night. I don’t understand it at all. Every other night she sleeps in a toddler bed that is just a little bigger than she is. There is no way that there is room for all this thrashing about in her bed, yet when she’s with us she’s all over the place.

Of course this means less than great nights of sleep for us, but it’s okay. We’re willing to sacrifice for Brian! We wish he would stay longer! Really we wish he would move in and entertain us everyday. Can’t wait for him to get here!

Bedtime Troubles Strike Again

Posted by: Maggie

We’re, once again, having some sleeping issues in the Keegan Gross house. Thankfully, once she’s in bed she sleeps through the night. But at bedtime, Eleanor just doesn’t want to go to sleep. We put her in bed between 8 and 8:30pm and then proceed to walk her back to bed until she stays there, which can be from 30 minutes to 2 hours. This happens most nights. Ever 15 minutes or so it’s something new, I need some milk, I have an itch, I’m hungry, I want Mama to sing me a song. And we do as the books say, we just walk her back to bed without discussion, over and over and over again.

Before we moved apartments we had turned her door handle around so that we could lock it from the outside to avoid the hours of walking her back to bed. We didn’t do it ever night, just after at lease 45 minutes of walking her back to bed and after warning her of the consequence of getting up again. This of course made her angry, and led to controversy among my family, who think it’s abusive to lock her in her room.

Some of you may feel the same way, but I’ve read many an article from parenting experts and doctors all which suggest locking the door or putting up a gate. I don’t see the difference between the two except with a gate she will have light coming into her room and can hear the tv on or Josh and I talking which doesn’t seem conducive to sleep. I honestly don’t see the problem with making her stay in her room until she falls asleep. I understand that people have concerns about the door being locked during the night because she couldn’t get to us if she had a nightmare or was feeling sick. But we check on her and unlock the door before we go to bed. I really don’t see the big deal, it’s her bedroom filled with books and toys, not a tiny cage lined with newspaper.

From reading the parenting forums and asking around, the bedtime problem seems extremely common at her age and no one seems to have a good solution.

What do you think? Is it wrong to lock her door at night? Got any secrets to get a very determined three year old to stay in bed? Do you think it’s just a three year old thing and she’ll grow out of it? I think that’s the way I’m leaning.

Morning Trouble

Posted by: Maggie

I’ve been having trouble getting myself out of bed lately. I used to wake up around 4:45 when I was working downtown. My alarm would go off, I’d drag myself out of bed, shower, dress, make-up, fix my hair and eat breakfast before getting Eleanor up and ready, then off to school for her, and off to catch the 7:45 train for me. But now that I’m working from home 99% of the time, I don’t feel like I’m in any kind of rush in the morning. My alarm goes off at 6:15 and then I turn it off and wake up around 7-7:30 get ready, start breakfast, wake-up Eleanor, and get her off to school, NEVER on time.

She’s supposed to start at 8:30 and I just can’t seem to get us there on time. We’re always 10-30 minutes late. I know that I need to get up a little earlier to do that and I know that I feel bad about wasting that extra hour of the morning sleeping. I guess I’m making up for the previous 6 months of never getting enough sleep by getting a little extra now. But I need to get up earlier. Ideally, I’d like to get up at 6 every morning. I love that first hour of the morning alone, drinking my first cup of coffee, reading blogs and emails before Eleanor gets up. And I’m sleeping that time away.

Anyone have any tips for me? How do you make yourself get out of bed early when you don’t HAVE to?

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